“Worry is a thin stream of fear trickling through the mind. If encouraged, it cuts a channel into which all other thoughts are drained.” Arthur Somers
I’ve learned a lot about myself in the 10 years I’ve lived with anxiety. I’ve learned that although I have moments of weakness I’m strong in the face of adversity. One would have to be in order to endure the daily struggle that goes on in the mind of a person living with anxiety. I’m often intrigued how it can, on one hand, completely imobilize me, yet on the other, unveil an amazing determination.
The last couple of weeks have been really tough, my anxiety has been coming on strong and staying awhile. It’s crazy, irrational, annoying and exhausting! I live my life in a constant state of fear and stress! I’m sure there are certain people in my life who’ll read this, eat it up and use it as their next gossip session, but so be it.
Everybody has their own theory on how and why my anxiety started, but I can only look at some of the things that were going on in my life at the time and how I reacted to them. However, I often think if they’re what triggered my anxiety and I know this why do they still happen? And what do I have to do to make them stop?
I’m aware my anxiety is all fear based and is exasperated by a lack of control of those fears. For example, I have a fear of dying, so when I have palpitations or feel a little dizzy that fear is intensified and my mind floods with hundreds of other fears like “am I having a heart attack?”, “will I see my family again?”, “what will happen to my daughter?”, “I don’t want to die”, “am I going crazy?”, and it sends my body into a fight or flight mode which sometimes will lead into a full blown panic attack… can’t breath, palpitations, sweats, nervousness, gotta get outta here, etc..
A panic attack is very scary, once you’ve had one, the fear of another is sometimes just as scary as the panic attack itself. In the beginning I found myself avoiding places where I had an attack and the thought of revisiting those places made me extremely anxious. Over time it seems to have dominoed into lots of little irrational fears making it much harder to do simple things like going to the grocery store, driving long distances, or just being in social situations in general. The fear of having an attack in public and the possibility of someone judging me was and still is scary. Will they think I’m crazy? is one of the first thoughts that comes to mind or what if I pass out? What’ll happen to Meg? Anxiety tends to make me think of the worst case scenario’s and I haven’t quite figured out how to rewire that process yet.
Sometimes anxiety make me lonely, depressed, angry and frustrated, but I know I have to keep moving forward and pushing myself to do the things that make me uncomfortable, some days are better than others, but as long as I try I’m making progress right?!
You gain strength, courage, and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face. You must do the things which you think you cannot do. ~Eleanor Roosevelt
to be continued…..
10 thoughts on “An Anxious Mind (great name for a book don’t ya think?)”
This is nothing to be ashamed of and I’m proud of you for putting it out there!
I think you’re definitely making progress. Just dealing with anxiety in the first place is HUGE, confronting the things that cause it is even bigger. I’m sorry you’re dealing with this but it sounds like you’re doing a great job figuring it out.
there’s nothing for people to gossip about. i’m not sure about anxiety and how it feels when there’s a panic attack. my heart goes out to you and i hope you’ll get better in no time. just keep trying!
I’ve only ever had a couple panic attacks and I had them in my sleep (I know, weird.) and it was hella scary. I cannot IMAGINE having to deal with it all of the time. It does sound like your making progress and good for you for being so open about it. I think more people deal with anxiety than what you might think and who cares what the gossip mongers say? It’s about time people put it out there.
I wish I had seen this earlier. I’m so sorry I didn’t. I hope you are doing OK. I have been having severe problems with panic attacks and my anxiety too! Just lately it has really picked up. The doctor increased my medicine and tested my thyroid, because I’d had some issues before. Now I am on Synthroid to increase my thyroid hormone and the extra dose of Zoloft. I’ve still been having some issues and am starting to think certain foods affect it too.
I’ve been under a lot of stress with a death in the family and some other family situations, but the attacks will come even when I should be calm. And trying to explain them to people or why I am having it? Impossible.
Hubby will say “You shouldn’t be panicking. What’s wrong? There’s nothing going on.” And he’s right, but I still feel like I’m going to flip out, pass out….stop breathing or have a heart attack.
I’m so sorry, again, that I did not see this before. I’ve been so overwhelmed with my own problems/anxiety and other things that I can’t even seem to concentrate on what I’m doing. Often I read blogs and comment on some, but don’t get to all the blogs I want to. I really hope you are OK. I’m going to send you a message on Facebook too
Oh Gosh, this is Lisa (Jonnysmommy) I had changed my login name on WordPress. Totally forgot that.
I agree with Jen! Don’t be ashamed of it! We are all here for you! I can’t imagine what it must be like, but you are so strong, Kirst! XOXOXOXO
Hang in there! Recently, I’ve been experiencing anxiety in a baaaad way. It’s got to be the stress for me. 😦
Thanks Corndoggirl! I hope your anxiety gets better it’s definitely no picnic. Feel free to email me or come back and visit my blog. Thanks for the comment.